Rejection, Self-Worth, Love
Rejection--- Noun 1 The act or process of rejecting
2 The state pf being rejected
3 Something that is rejected
-Synonyms – Refusal, spurning, dismissal, elimination
Self-worth--- Noun 1 the sense of one’s own value or worth as a person; self-esteem; self-respect
Love---Noun 1 to have a strong liking for; take great pleasure in
2 A profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person.
3 A feeling of warm personal attachment or deep affection, as for a parent, child, or friend.
4 The benevolent affection of God for His creatures or the reverent affection due from them to God.
5 To have love or affection for another person; be in love.
I look around and see that a lot of the girls in my dorm are experiencing rejection, all on different levels for different reasons. But the affect is the same; they are being pulled down into different states of depression. They are questioning their self-worth and God given beauty, they are wondering if they ever will be loved by another. And last but not least they all put on a mask to front to others they are ok and good. Once in awhile do I see them take off the mask and be real and honest.
As I see and experience these feelings, I stop to wonder, “Why is it that guys just don’t get it?” Having had a few conversations with guys and being able to just be real with them about what I am feeling like, I get those pat answers of you shouldn’t feel like that, you are pretty, you will find a man one day. I am a girl, I am emotional, I am going to feel things stronger then a guy will. It will cut deeper then any guy can guess.
But then I talked with my dear friend here and He was rejected and he felt the same pain I felt… how can this be, he is a guy for goodness sake it shouldn’t be like this. But he is and he is working through this just like us girls
Why is it that those of us who face and experience rejection more often then most lose value in which they are, and begin to feel like they are not worth anything? Why is it that we feel like we are unlovable, and unwanted? What is it that sets this off in our mind and life? How come we can’t seem to hold onto the truth that will set us free but run after the lies that only pull us down? What is wrong with me… why can’t I just be content in Gods arms and His time and plans for my life (My whole life not just guys)? Why is the truth so hard to grasp….
Please no hard words. That is not what I need. What I need is someone to sit with or a shoulder to cry on. Even thought I highly doubt I would want to do that with anyone. There are not many who I would want to share about this with deeper and more honest like so please don’t say I am here for you. I KNOW.
2 The state pf being rejected
3 Something that is rejected
-Synonyms – Refusal, spurning, dismissal, elimination
Self-worth--- Noun 1 the sense of one’s own value or worth as a person; self-esteem; self-respect
Love---Noun 1 to have a strong liking for; take great pleasure in
2 A profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person.
3 A feeling of warm personal attachment or deep affection, as for a parent, child, or friend.
4 The benevolent affection of God for His creatures or the reverent affection due from them to God.
5 To have love or affection for another person; be in love.
I look around and see that a lot of the girls in my dorm are experiencing rejection, all on different levels for different reasons. But the affect is the same; they are being pulled down into different states of depression. They are questioning their self-worth and God given beauty, they are wondering if they ever will be loved by another. And last but not least they all put on a mask to front to others they are ok and good. Once in awhile do I see them take off the mask and be real and honest.
As I see and experience these feelings, I stop to wonder, “Why is it that guys just don’t get it?” Having had a few conversations with guys and being able to just be real with them about what I am feeling like, I get those pat answers of you shouldn’t feel like that, you are pretty, you will find a man one day. I am a girl, I am emotional, I am going to feel things stronger then a guy will. It will cut deeper then any guy can guess.
But then I talked with my dear friend here and He was rejected and he felt the same pain I felt… how can this be, he is a guy for goodness sake it shouldn’t be like this. But he is and he is working through this just like us girls
Why is it that those of us who face and experience rejection more often then most lose value in which they are, and begin to feel like they are not worth anything? Why is it that we feel like we are unlovable, and unwanted? What is it that sets this off in our mind and life? How come we can’t seem to hold onto the truth that will set us free but run after the lies that only pull us down? What is wrong with me… why can’t I just be content in Gods arms and His time and plans for my life (My whole life not just guys)? Why is the truth so hard to grasp….
Please no hard words. That is not what I need. What I need is someone to sit with or a shoulder to cry on. Even thought I highly doubt I would want to do that with anyone. There are not many who I would want to share about this with deeper and more honest like so please don’t say I am here for you. I KNOW.
posted by Sarah @ 1:49 AM
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2 Comments:
Rejection sucks. Value is not solid, but liquid. It is based on people's opinions, even our own. We look particularly good one day, we do well on a test, we get a raise or a compliment. It's easy to feel valuable with things like that, but the opposite is also true. I understand, believe me.
rejection and self worth are not created by outside influences but by our own fears and insecurities, it is within ourselves that we will find completeness, not by finding another, it is within us that we find the answers. with age comes experience, and i have both, so when i say that its better to avoid relationships until you have your own house in order its not because i love reading myself type, its because i have gone through this already. i graduated high school and i was a mess, no career direction, not very confident in myself, and very insecure aboiut pretty much everything in my life. what changed? i did, i realized that i didn't need a girl or anyone else in my life to make me a better person, or to complete me, why would any woman want an uncompleted guy? they don't. so i took a break from relationships and quickly realized that i didn't need a woman in my life, i didn't need someone to make me feel better. it was my own realization that i am my own defeat, the only person i need on my side is myself, cause if i am not confident in myself then how can i expect anyone to fix that? its not fair to them or the relationship. so i came to realize i am who i am, my own weight, my own looks, my own presence, these are things i can alter, but not completely change... they are what makes me who i am when combined with my experiences, and my soul. so after taking a year off of relationships and focusing on my own relationship with myself i became confident in myself which started to attract the attention of people who wanted nothing to do with me before but now found themselves attracted to me. i conquered my own fears, which enabled me to see others fears and insecurities. i had created a better "me" who was no longer afraid of being alone,(after all we are born alone and will die alone) the only people who are truly with me is myself and god. i became better equipped to deal with other peoples choices whether they benefited me or not and not assume there choices were based upon me, if a girl wanted to break up then it was her choice, not mine, i was still committed, i was still in the relationship for the right reasons even if she wasn't, i had given my best, sure the relationship died, but then so does everything, i became grateful for the time we had, instead of stressing over the ending of a relationship...
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